6 Life Lessons That FRIENDS Taught Us

The beloved comedy sitcom “FRIENDS” first aired in September 1994, lasting 10 seasons and ending in 2004. More than 10 years later, it’s still warming our hearts and making us laugh until we cry.

The show and “the couch” have withstood the test of time, becoming a classic.

Not only does the purple window at Monica’s door and the setting at coffee house Central Perk incite a sense of nostalgia, but the characters have really come to feel like home for the fans.

Ross, Rachel, Phoebe, Joey, Monica and Chandler have been able to inspire a few life lessons along the way.

Whether you were a Chandler or a Rachel, there was someone you could identify with. There were storylines that had you cracking up and ones that had you tearing up – but either way, you were glued to the screen.

Let’s see what lesson each character of FRIENDS has to offer us (careful, spoilers ahead)

1. Don’t be afraid to take a risk

As well as proving true love does exist, if Rachel getting off the plane to Paris to be with Ross taught us anything, it’s that taking a risk – for love, a job, yourself – is worth doing. It will teach you to live in the moment and not look back. And who wants to be predictable all the time, anyway?

2. Everyone has different opinions about things – and that’s fine

Consider this piece of wisdom from Joey Tribbiani: “It’s a moo point. It’s like a cow’s opinion. It just doesn’t matter. It’s moo.” While many of us like to consider ourselves fairly confident people, there’s no doubt that we all value other people’s opinions way more than we should. Like when Ross just couldn’t accept that Phoebe didn’t believe in evolution.

Everyone is going to have an opinion about everything, it would be positively dull if everyone had the same opinion about everything. However, you should know when to just agree to disagree – some things just aren’t worth getting all worked up about. Sometimes, it’s a moo point.

3. Dance, run and do whatever you love like no one is watching

Remember the episode when Phoebe runs like crazy in the park? How free-spirited is she?

Here is an important lesson to learn from her – do what pleases you and do not care a damn about society. The world anyways will talk, you just do what you feel is right. Phoebe did everything as a free spirit – had her brother’s triplets, sang unusual songs at the Café (remember “Smelly Cat”?) and held her head high always.

4. Keep it Real!

Ross is very misunderstood. Coming off as sad and judgmental, Ross is the one that keeps it real. When Phoebe thought her mother was reincarnated into a cat, he was the one who had to step up and say something. A lover of science, Ross is very learned and it comes through in his sarcasm. And oh! He definitely taught us the difference between your and you’re and UNAGI.

5. Always Stay Motivated

Monica, the mother hen of the group, doesn’t shy away from leading the group and taking responsibility for tasks. Someone has to do it and leadership skills take you a long way.

She has her quirks, and she’ll be the first to admit it. She likes her furniture arranged a certain way. She has 11 different categories for towels. You can’t eat in bed. She embraces all of these things about herself, and you should embrace your quirks too.

Perfectionist Monica taught us to take up a job that we love instead of doing something which we detest.

Pursuing your dream can get tough. You might have to do something you don’t like. Monica knew from very early on that she wanted to be a chef and open her own restaurant someday. In the bargain, she wore costumes and skates and danced and waitressed at diners. But ultimately, she was the head chef at her own restaurant.

6. There’s Always a Bright Side 

We all know that Chandler is emotionally unavailable and therefore turns to humor and quick wit to escape emotion. (I think a lot of us are with you there, Bing.) Chandler is easy to love because he is laid back and self-deprecates in such a way that you have to respect him.

Chandler reminds us that life isn’t all bad, and that sometimes you just gotta’ dance your feelings out; regardless of how silly you look. He taught us to never lose hope and find a person who will put a turkey on their head to say sorry and put a ring on it.

When times get tough, make a fort, watch TV in it and invite your friends over. Life is hard, but if you can find times to still be silly and act like a kid, 100% do it.

They are the spirit animals of big and small citizens alike, and their personality resembles many of us in this world. Whether serious or stupid, we can always count on them to yield the perfect piece of advice for most situations.

What are the life lessons you learned from FRIENDS? Do let us know in the comments section below!

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Studying bachelor’s in biotechnology, Aayushi is a really passionate person, who loves to read and travel. She believes people, places, and stories have the power to change anyone and help them understand the purpose of life.

4 Ways to Improve your Communication Skills

Communication is an important feature of an effective leader.

Steve Jobs always motivated his workers to make progress towards Perfect Hardware Products. Jack Welch coached the senior authority group of GE higher than ever. Jeff Bezos is known for articulating the Amazon ethos unmistakably to employees and the world.

And why am I mentioning it?

Because Motivation, Coaching, and Articulation are all parts of Communication.

All these leaders have extraordinary communication skills.

So if you also want to have these great abilities here are 4 easy ways to Improve your Communication Skills:

1. Be a good listener

One of the most renowned and proven mantra to improve your communication skill is “listening”.

“Listen More Than You Talk” is something that Richard Branson has always been telling business people who want to connect with each other.

To communicate effectively, first tune in to what others need to say. At that point, you can give a mindful answer that shows you have considered those thoughts.  

 2. Over-communicate, but make sure to communicate.

In 1990, a graduate student at Stanford College could demonstrate that the presenters overestimate how much audience actually understands.

In an examination called “the tappers and the listeners,” one set of members were asked to tap the tune from 120 well-known melodies. The opposite team members were requested to think about what tune was being tapped.

Tappers evaluated that 50% of the melodies tapped would be effectively identified. When in reality, just 2,5%t of melodies were accurately identified.

This investigation demonstrates that it is vital to convey clearly, and to over-communicate when sharing something new.

Make sure that your audience actually understood what you just said. A good way of doing that is by asking them to summarize or repeat the information given.

3. Start and end with key points.

Rethink the “tappers and the listeners” specified above. Clear communication is of vital significance.

To ensure that the audience understands the key takeaways from presentations, repeat key points toward the beginning and wrap up of the speech.

This can likewise be achieved by providing participants with a one-pager that incorporates key points they’re supposed to consider all through the introduction.

4. Add examples to make listeners connect.

An ongoing report uncovered that people generally hold more information when given with an example.

To help the audience connect to you, think about infusing a type of novel occasion into an introduction, a daily real-life situation or even a joke.

This may be something amusing, or something that people just catch surprisingly. It gets much easier to process information when you connect it to something you can relate with.

Perhaps communicating clearly is one of the most effective skills you can cultivate as a business leader.

Listen carefully to what others have to say, and over-communicate in various different ways to ensure the content of the conversation sticks with the audience.

You can also find your voice, all you need to do is take the first step, and practice it every day!

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5 simple habits to improve how you empower others

To empower means “to give somebody power or authority” and also “to give somebody a sense of confidence or self-esteem”.

When I joined AIESEC, initially, we were told that a good leader has 4 qualities, i.e. being solution oriented, a world citizen, knowing how to communicate effectively, and being able to empower others.

The value that caught my immediate attention was “empowering others”. It was difficult for me to understand how does a person empower other people in everyday life.

I was having a rough week back then. I remember sitting on a bench alone at the Gurudwara near my home when an 11-year-old girl walked up to me with a big smile on her face. She asked me what it was that I was so worried about. I told her everything that I thought was wrong with the world and how I could not do anything to make it a better place.

She held my hand and said, “There are no great deeds. Only small deeds, done with great love.”

I was completely taken aback and amused by how an eleven-year-old girl could teach me such a valuable lesson about life.

We may not stop fights or serve those in the refugee camps today, but we can do something for someone every day.

perks of being a wallflower we can be heroes empower

Not only does that mean you are not insignificant, but it means that you can, in fact, change someone’s world every single day and be a leader.

I once read it somewhere that a leader isn’t always the person who leads or someone who is working for a refugee camp or guiding 10 people in an organization. A leader is a person who, by just being himself, makes an impact on the other person’s life. That ultimately adds to changing the world for the better.

“See the light in others, and treat them as if that is all you see.”

– Dr. Wayne Dyer

The inspiring and kind people who I’ve met throughout my AIESEC journey are incredibly influential leaders. It is worthwhile understanding their thoughts, the way they approach life and, more specifically, the way they treat others.

Meeting them has had a profound effect on my life.

One of the lessons I learned through my interaction with them was the importance of empowering others. And to my surprise, it can be done easily, with 5 basic habits:

1. Don’t criticize without offering help.

Every one of us has the magic power of empowering other people simply by generously giving praise and showing encouragement to help them realize their underlying potential.

“Abilities wither under criticism; they blossom under encouragement.”

– Dale Carnegie

Even if something can be improved, criticizing just for the sake of it, without offering any support will not make any difference. But if you show development points, and offer help or suggestions on how they can be improved, that is empowerment.

2. Drop the judgment.

Empowering others is to understand that every person is different and we can’t judge others based on our conditions or beliefs.

Just because someone doesn’t have the same ambitions as you, or even if they don’t learn as fast as you, you should still support them without judgment, but trying to place yourself in their shoes. Maybe they just have a different learning curve, or they absorb information in different ways.

Or maybe, they didn’t have the same opportunities as you and had to settle with a less ambitious career.

For instance, in our daily life, we meet the cashier at the supermarket, the waiter at the café, the guy who pumps your gas, the doorman, the street cleaner, and the janitor. These people are not transparent. They are people just like us. 

We can all make them feel worth it and cared for, just by smiling at these people, inquiring about their wellbeing, thanking them for the services they provide, and wishing them a good day. It can make a lot of difference in their life, receiving some kindness.

Empowering others means being happy for them, and praising them for their accomplishments, whatever they are. Praising them in any way possible. Always.

3. Empowering others means empowering yourself.

It’s only after you’ve conquered what lies within you can you uplift other people. You have to be kind to yourself first. Pull yourself together every time life throws you down. Empowered people empower others.

Impacting the life of someone else sure is special, but first, you have to make an impact in your own life.

4. Show more appreciation.


“Praise is like sunlight to the human spirit. We cannot flower and grow without it.”

– Jess Lair

To empower someone, you have to help the person feel proud of the good things they do. And the simplest way to achieve that is to express your appreciation for everything that person does for you, large or small. This again encourages people, as they know they’re doing well, and wish to improve more every day.

It is time for us to start looking more deeply into the good of other people and tell them, “Thank you. I really appreciate that.”

5. Let them make their own decisions

Hold back from giving answers to your small brother. Let him decide what should be the solution to the problem in front of him. Help him understand the importance of being a good decision maker.

And not just your brother, but anyone you meet. We have a general human nature of giving instruction to other people as if our way is the best way. Stop for a while.

Hold space open for creative thinking. This will require discipline and patience on your part. Provide hints or prompts to help steer someone in the right direction. Allowing them to discover the answer will empower them in future situations.

Empowering others also empowers us.

Empowering others makes the world a better place. It’s one of the most important acts of kindness one can do for his fellow men.

Every nod, every smile, every interaction can completely change the course of someone else’s day. We can either wield that influence in a positive or negative way. The people who I met chose the former.

Smile at each other. Offer some kind words and a genuine caring for those around you. Build people up, instead of knocking them down.

It just takes tiny acts throughout your day. Create these habits with everyone you interact with to empower the world.

If you want to know more about how we can empower each other and make a difference, take a moment to read about these “9 volunteers who are making a difference across the globe”.

And if you’re curious about how AIESEC can help you become a better leader, find out more about our programs at aiesec.in/students.

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Studying bachelor’s in biotechnology, Aayushi is a really passionate person, who loves to read and travel. She believes people, places, and stories have the power to change anyone and help them understand the purpose of life.

4 Leadership Lessons from Captain America

For more than 60 years, Captain America was one of Marvel Comics’ flagship characters, representing truth, strength, liberty, and justice.

Captain America, aka Steve Rogers, was a squirt from Brooklyn who just wanted to lend a hand against the Nazis. He never intended on being the best, just aimed at being able to do his part.

He had the guts and the passion to do what other big and strong guys did not, and so was chosen to be the test subject to become the first super soldier. The only thing experiment did was to make his exterior match his interior.

Captain America is a hero and not merely heroic. Even after gaining super strength, super speed, and super immunity he stuck to his values. He empowered his team in times of difficulties, miscommunications and looked forward to making an impact.

Among The Avengers, he’s the one who goes around with the police and helps get people to safety. While Iron Man, Thor, and the Hulk break, smash and blow stuff up, Cap’s the one on the ground making sure there are no casualties. It’s the thankless role, but he does it and that’s why he’s the leader.

Now, why does he do and feel these things? Is it because he’s from an older, simpler time?


Steve believes in what’s right and will fight to the death to make his dream a reality. He believes in life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness for every person throughout the world (unless you’re a Hydra or a Super Villain, then he has a few things to say to you).

Yes, he’s a superhero but it’s his human qualities that make him great.

Here are 4 leadership lessons we can learn from Captain America.



One of the best things about Steve Rogers is his moral code. He has integrity and strong convictions, and he doesn’t compromise them.

Having integrity sounds like a boring personality trait for a movie character, but it’s exactly what draws other characters to him and inspires them to follow his lead. He never made excuses or complained when he was weak, and he always stood up because of his moral beliefs, and those beliefs kept him going.  

He had the guts and courage to stand amidst the odds and decide what’s best for his team. His convictions about freedom and justice help guide his decision-making and provide direction for his leadership.

How you can be like Steve:

Having integrity as a leader builds trust between you and your team. Interact and communicate honestly with your team members, even in difficult situations. If you have a vision for your team or organization, share it with them and make sure that your words and actions are in line with your vision.


Leaders are often accused of talking but not doing. But the best way to empower your team is for you to do what you’re asking them to do.

That’s not to say that Cap never used a good rousing speech to fire up the team. You can use words to empower, but follow it up with action to show that you mean it.

Steve saw potential in Black Widow from the day he met her. Even though she came to the U.S. as a Russian spy, she deflected to team up with Hawkeye. Cap saw the greatness inside of her and supported her when she applied to join the Avengers, where she became a critical team member and they have been thick as thieves ever since.

How you can be like Steve:

Walk your talk. If you’re already shared your vision and goals with your team, then lead by example and act in ways that push you towards that vision.

The best leaders lead from the front and what they do empowers their team. If you show your passion for a project, that energy will transfer itself to your teammates. Get to know them.

Learn what motivates them, what their strengths are, and what makes them happy at work. The key is to grow with them, every step of the way.


Regardless of how Cap may feel about political issues, he makes it clear that he does not, and will not, serve the demands of the government. Rather he’s interested in serving the people and the nation’s dream.

He has is own principles of justice, ideals, and morals from which his beliefs are unshakable. He will not compromise anything he believes in.

He enforces this time and again he’s not interested in signing over their ability to help people according to the needs of the society. He will stand up to anything and everything for the sake of protecting people.

Steve fights for what he believes is right and wants to help the world find peace. This makes Steve a hero through decades of change and turmoil. He can’t and won’t be bought, and he most certainly won’t be bullied by anyone or pushed around, especially for false gains.

Cap will always fight for the little guy because he was the little guy, and he understands what it’s like to feel helpless.

How you can be like Steve

Don’t be a leader who shifts the blame or avoids responsibility. If you’ve made a decision and it turned out to be a wrong one, acknowledge your mistake and learn from it. Use your experience and best judgment to make difficult decisions.

Your team will look to you for guidance and direction when things are tough so don’t shy away from taking responsibility. Believe in your ability to make this world a better place. Be a world citizen.


One of the most difficult things a leader has to do is make tough decisions. Cap doesn’t shy away from that. He takes responsibility for a number of difficult decisions in the different movies.

Like when he tells Black Widow to close the portal at the end of The Avengers. You can see the regret and sadness about losing a teammate when making that decision, but he has weighed the situation and decided to do what was right in a tough situation.

He focuses on the good part and knows there’s nothing they can’t achieve if they work together as a team.

He makes his team feel positive and guides them to find a solution even in the darkest of time. He focuses on the fact that uncertainties will stay but there dream is bigger than these uncertainties.

How you can be like Steve

The most important lesson to all leaders that losing a tool or resource in your team doesn’t necessarily mean game over. It is important to never bank your strategy on a single skill/tool/person and learn to be adaptable when anticipating the unknown. Captain America believes in people and his ability, even when it looks like there is no hope.

Heroism and being a superhero is so much more than simply throwing punches, taking out the bad guys, and then having victory celebrations.

Being a hero means having empathy and kindness. And so does being a leader.

The real secret to Captain America’s success as a leader is that he is himself.

Take away the shield, take away the uniform, take away his title and at his core, he’s still the same scrawny Steven G. Rogers from Brooklyn. As already said, the experiment merely amplified what was already inside of him.

Hence, be as real, as authentic as you are. Don’t let your title of ‘leader’ change you, but let it magnify your strengths.

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Studying bachelor’s in biotechnology, Aayushi is a really passionate person, who loves to read and travel. She believes people, places, and stories have the power to change anyone and help them understand the purpose of life.

How to be a Harry Potter in the world of Muggles

Over the last 20 years, Harry Potter has impacted millions of us, crossing time and generations when doing so.

How many of us have grown up wishing to be a wizard and waiting for our letter from Hogwarts? I bet that right now, somewhere in the world, there’s a kid dreaming about the wizarding world, wishing to be a part of it.

harry potter flying on a hippogriff

Magic aside, the series taught us some most important things that we need to focus on in our life. From the first book and until the most recent movies, there’s always a new lesson about responsibility and leadership.

Haven’t you noticed it?

Here are some 4 lessons I learnt with Harry Potter:


1. Leaders are made, they are not born

As an infant, Harry survived an attack by Lord Voldemort, and acquired fame as “The Boy Who Lived”.

He grew up without knowing any of that and, when he entered the wizarding world, he was surprised to know the legends about him and how heroic everyone considered him. Despite this, he remained grounded and was always seeking to learn and gain more knowledge, rather than just taking a heroic status that was gifted upon him by others.

Harry Potter as a baby

In the end, Harry owned his title as a hero through his own actions and leadership skills, right?

He didn’t accept that it was his responsibility to be a hero because of people telling him that. Instead, he made it his responsibility because he saw the importance of his actions and decisions.

A true leader is not told to be a leader, but they just can’t stand in front of injustice and do nothing. They have strong values, as Harry had.

We can see this change also in many other characters, such as Neville Longbottom.

Starting as a modest child with low confidence, Neville mishandled his way through secondary school, once in a while leaving a positive impact on anybody he met with.

neville longbottom saying he'll fight his friends

For several times he showed purpose and bravery. Because of his own strong will to evolve during the years that he spent in Hogwarts, Neville could grow a lot in confidence. He assumed an instrumental part in the last Clash of Hogwarts, again showing that leaders are made, not born.

2. Knowing its own strengths it’s a big step in leadership

In Harry’s 5th year at Hogwarts, the school goes through hard changes in its rules and class schedules. This happened because the Ministry of Magic didn’t want young wizards talking about the return of Voldemort. It was pure censorship.

Most of the students were angry at the new policies, as they felt powerless and vulnerable without the chance to learn Defence Against the Dark Arts in such uncertain times.

Hermione took the lead and proposed the arrangement of a secret study group. She knew how Harry had a lot of practical knowledge in Defence Against the Dark Arts, due to his past experiences with Voldemort, and suggested him (not to say pushed) to lead the Dumbledore’s Army (D.A.).

Dumbledore claping and subtitles "Dumbledore is pleased"

That’s where Harry got really aware about his potential.

Maybe he would never have accepted that if Hermione didn’t tell it to his face. Sometimes you just need someone telling you: “you should do this because you’re good at it”.

And thanks Hermione for that,  after all, leadership is a lot about how well you know yourself, right?

3. True leaders inspire others to be better

Dumbledore’s Army began with the aim of being a place to study and practise magic, going against the new wave of authority at Hogwarts, but it ended up filling a substantially bigger need.

The students who went to D.A. gatherings where the people who needed to learn and enhance their magic, and they built up their aptitudes at a quick rate through Harry’s direction.

Dumbledore's Army claping

Later that year, when a battle was approaching, Harry was prepared to fight without anyone else. He felt it was his responsibility alone and that he couldn’t ask anyone to risk themselves.

But a good leader makes people feel capable and empowered. Hence, Neville stood up and said that the whole D.A. should go to, as this was their opportunity to fight and to be a part of something bigger than themselves.

By role modelling courage and bravery, and putting time into building up his companions, Harry could enable and empower different leaders. After Harry fled Hogwarts, years later, Neville assembled and led a new D.A.,  preparing them to face the last battle at Hogwarts.

Dumbledore's Army had something worth fighting for

This is a true sign of effective leadership – by empowering his followers, Harry helped new leaders to come up.

4. No one can lead alone

Harry, Hermione and Ron are regularly admired for how complementary they are and how solid their bond is. The trio shows how the best leaders are the individuals who centre around their qualities.

Aren’t they just friendship goals?

Harry Ron and Hermione laughing in the snow

Harry never hesitates to speak his mind, he makes the team be fearless and talk about ‘unspeakable’ things. He is confident and free, ready to trust in his abilities in face of troubles and huge difficulties.

He‘s also driven by an inborn need to put things right.

Hermione is a supplier and an anchor. She is ingenious and mindful and adopts an exceptionally even minded strategy. As opposed to Harry, she’s able to control her impulses and think things through before acting, something that comes in hand many times, when others couldn’t think properly.

Ron, in the meantime, ties the gathering together with his feeling of loyalty and brotherhood. His benevolence and will to help other people, even if shown in the goofiest way, is just lovely.

gryffindor students cheering

5. Leaders don’t close their eyes to the issues around them

During the entire Harry Potter series, Harry and his friends were always concerned about the issues Hogwarts was going through. They were willing to anything at risk the course of exploring the problems and looking for solutions, always keeping in mind the safety of the other students.

They just couldn’t close their eyes when something seemed wrong.

Hermione breaking rules

That’s how true leaders are, right? Our world is our Hogwarts and we have to learn about the issues that it is facing now.

After all, we are the one, who have to stand-out, like these incredible wizards, and take action to make our life legen-wait for-it-Dary!

Let’s take the first step and be a Wizard of change in the world full of muggles?

Let us know in the comments if you ever did some magic to make the world a better place!
We’d love to know it 🙂


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Anisha Bhawanani is graduated in Marketing and Finance and loves writing. She is a happy go lucky girl with a head full of dreams, very passionate about traveling and exploring different cultures. One day she wants to win a man booker prize.