When I was little, my mom used to tell me a story. It tells about a man who once found a cocoon of a butterfly.
One day a little opening showed up in the cocoon. He sat and kept watching the butterfly for a few hours, as it attempted to compel its body through that little opening.
At a point, it appeared to quit gaining any progress. It looked up as though it had reached the extent that it could, and it could go no further. So the man chose to help the butterfly. He took a couple of scissors and cut off the rest of the bit of the cocoon.
The butterfly at that point rose effectively, but with a swollen body and little, withered wings. The man kept on watching the butterfly, since he expected that, at any minute, the wings would broaden and extend to have the capacity to help the body, which would contract in time.
But neither happened!
Truth be told, the butterfly spent whatever remained of its life creeping around with a swollen body and wilted wings. It could never fly.
What the man, in his will to help, did not comprehend was that the confining cocoon and the battle were required for the butterfly. The effort would force liquid from the butterfly’s body into its wings, so it would be prepared for flight once it left the cocoon.
As a child, I was completely mad at the man, but now I understand how this story connects with our everyday life.
The sad end of butterfly taught me two main lessons, and they gave me the strength to welcome every challenge with an open heart.
1. Challenges help us in our personal growth
We say we want to have a smooth cruising life, without any issues and problems at all. It is certainly impractical thus, imagine a scenario in which you have a life without any problem? Wouldn’t it bore if everything that happened was what you anticipated?
By chance, if you can accomplish anything without hard work, would you be delighted after you achieve something awesome?
Why people like sports, beginning a business or playing games? Since it is hard, challenging and winning it influences you to feel excited about your achievements.
Problems can be a helpful obstacle that once we manage to get past it, we will gain tremendous insights and experience that will be most helpful to our personal growth.
2. Some problems you must face by yourself
We also saw that the person cutting the cocoon and enabling the butterfly to leave it effectively, out of his own consideration.
Do you believe he was truly helping the butterfly? In a roundabout way, he made the butterfly creep on the floor for whatever remained of its life, despite the fact that it wasn’t his intention.
We have discovered that we should be more mindful of the circumstance before loaning help. Try not to offer help to the individual for a temporary relief. As a long-term goal, it can cause it to become more independent and pass out additional support throughout everyday life.
For example, some of us are really bad at maths, English language etc. I was bad in the English language and could not understand tenses. So I found an easy way out!
I started copying my homework and cheating in my examinations. My friends were glad that they helped me, even though they knew they were harming me in the long run.
Then one day, the teacher changed our seating arrangements, and I had to start studying by myself. Had I not really tried understanding tenses myself and with the help of my teachers, I wouldn’t have been at the place where I am today: writing blogs and writing my own book.
I would never have realized my true qualities.
Give people a chance to develop themselves and sparkle.
I am certain that, not far off, they will be appreciative of you.
Let’s kickstart our day with the lesson from this beautiful story and see every problem as a step to get out of our comfort zone and discover our true potential! ?
And if you know som people who need to have a better acceptance of challenges, how about you share this with them?
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Anisha Bhawanani is graduated in Marketing and Finance and loves writing. She is a happy go lucky girl with a head full of dreams, very passionate about traveling and exploring different cultures. One day she wants to win a man booker prize.