To me, it’s always been intriguing and exciting to wonder about how emotional fitness works.
Emotions influence our thoughts, actions and even the decisions we make. Be it trying to understand people, dealing with the daily hustle of life or even motivation to do things.
What makes them even more interesting is their complexity.
I can feel joyful and stressed at the same time. Or if I’ve taken a challenging task, I can feel scared yet brave altogether.
It’s so strange, and hence, it builds my curiosity.
I often think about how do successful people deal with these emotions.
How did Barack Obama always manage to smile whenever in the eyes of media, while carrying the responsibility of the entire nation on his shoulders? Like, are you sure Obama was doing good in life?
What keeps Ellen DeGeneres’ sarcasm and humor alive, despite the challenges she has experienced being lesbian? Could I have lead life the same way as hers if I were in her shoes?
After multiple conversations with the youth around me, I’ve observed that most of us are trying to ‘keep up’ with life events, all cheerful on the outside but not the same on the inside.
This, at times, is worrisome; for not only our mental and emotional well being, but also for our future to come.
Emotional fitness relates to how we as individuals can focus on important tasks by not letting the negative emotions affect us.
If you’re trying to understand and learn the art of emotional fitness, go ahead:
Expressing yourself makes you emotionally aware.
I don’t know about you, but I usually struggle to speak up my mind to people. I keep thinking I might not be wanted to be heard, or I might bother people who’re already facing issues.
But we’re humans after all.
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs theory mentions ‘sense of connection’ as a social need. That’s something we require to feel ‘love and belonging’, not just another wish or desire.
Talking is considered to be one of the powerful tools to relieve pain as well.
The more expressive the mind is, the more it acknowledges reality and the lesser it accumulates negative psychic impressions.
Our mind becomes more peaceful, aware and healthier.
Hence, we should listen to our mind, heart and body more often, to understand what they’re trying to communicate to us. Be it about us, or about the situation we’re in.
This makes us take conscious about not only our actions but also about ourselves!
Emotional awareness helps in self-control.
Instead of becoming defensive about emotions that are hard to accept, rather, label these emotions.
At times, we fail to face criticisms, because they make us vulnerable and threaten our reputation.
But you know what, not all criticisms are bad, some are even constructive.
The concept of Johari Window Model of Communication made me realise that there are attributes about us which others can easily observe, but we might never discover them on our own.
While there are parts of us which only we know but others don’t (Hidden Area), there are some traits we have that are unknown to us but known to others (Blind Spot).
It varies on how people notice us and make us aware about those traits.
Once we welcome our emotions, understand them and label them correctly, we become more capable to control the irrelevant or negative thoughts and impressions.
We begin to care more about our mental health.
Keeping my mind alert and actively analysing my actions have helped me gain self-control.
Emotional Fitness is not as complex as we think, but it needs efforts and practice. A healthy mind keeps a body healthy, not the other way around.
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Vanyashree Chaudhary is a light-hearted Journalism student from Delhi. She’s crazy about her love for graphic designing, Oreo shakes and Daft Punk. Find her the happiest while she’s travelling!