Is Mental Health a Taboo? Why?

Adolescence and the early years of adulthood are a time for changes in life. Changing schools, changing friends, leaving home, starting university or even a new job. Many many things can occur. For some or many, these are exciting times. But, for some, they can also bring out stress and anxiety. In some cases,  these feelings can build up and affect your mental health.

And we constantly contribute to that even without noticing. Some “small” things can have a big impact. When you call a person fat or skinny, even though you aren’t serious about it.

That might be unknowingly hurtful to them, this bad feeling could result in increasing their anxiety levels.

Mental Health should not be a taboo.

You may think that mental health is something far from you, or it’s “an exaggeration”, but it’s more common than you think. A mental illness causes disturbances in thinking, behavior, energy or emotion that make it difficult to cope with the ordinary demands of life.

And there’s no right answer to what lead someone to become mentally ill. It can come from many things.

Research is starting to uncover the complicated causes of these diseases. It can include genetics, brain chemistry, brain structure, experiencing trauma and/or having another medical condition, like heart disease.

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These are the most common mental health conditions, which you probably heard about before:

1. Anxiety Disorders – More than 18% of adults each year struggle with some type of anxiety disorder, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), panic disorder (panic attacks), generalized anxiety disorder and specific phobias.

2. Mood Disorders – Mood disorders, such as depression and bipolar depression, affect nearly 10% of adults each year and are characterized by difficulties in regulating one’s mood.

How can we look after it?

It’s important to take care of ourselves and others, to get the most from life. Here are some of the ways that you can start from today itself:

1. Talk and Listen

Talk about your feelings, it helps you to stay in good mental health and deal with times when you feel troubled. Don’t forget to listen to others as well 🙂

2. Exercise

Regular exercise can boost your self-esteem and can help you concentrate, sleep, and look and feel better. Exercise keeps the brain and your other vital organs healthy and is very important towards improving your mental health.

3. Take a break

A change of environment is good for your mental health. Take a break and do something you feel good about. For instance: Volunteer, when you feel very unproductive about yourself.

4. Ask for help

We are humans, we all sometimes get tired or overwhelmed by how we feel or when things don’t go according to plan. If things are getting too much for you and you feel you can’t cope, ask for help.

5. Do something you’re good at

What activities do you lose yourself in? Play a loud music, bang your head to the beats, jump to reach the top of the world, enjoying yourself helps you to beat the stress 🙂

Even after trying a certain number of things, you still feel mentally tired or ill. You should go to a counselor. Yes, some people make fun about it and might call you crazy, but, that’s not true.

Imagine when you have flu, all you need is some dosage of medicines, and you’re back to healthy living. The same way our brain needs counseling sometimes and it’s back to the track, in fact sometimes we do better then we were doing initially.

We pick ourselves up, only after falling.

Mental Health Awareness is something much needed in today’s generation. It’s a delicate yet much-needed topic to be talked about. Sometimes the best we can do to help people going through a mental illness is listening and letting them know how to get some support. Do you know other ways that we can all do our part, breaking up the “taboo” status of Mental Health? Share your thoughts with us.

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Anisha Bhawanani is graduated in Marketing and Finance and loves writing. She is a happy go lucky girl with a head full of dreams, very passionate about traveling and exploring different cultures. One day she wants to win a man booker prize.

6 Life Lessons That FRIENDS Taught Us

The beloved comedy sitcom “FRIENDS” first aired in September 1994, lasting 10 seasons and ending in 2004. More than 10 years later, it’s still warming our hearts and making us laugh until we cry.

The show and “the couch” have withstood the test of time, becoming a classic.

Not only does the purple window at Monica’s door and the setting at coffee house Central Perk incite a sense of nostalgia, but the characters have really come to feel like home for the fans.

Ross, Rachel, Phoebe, Joey, Monica and Chandler have been able to inspire a few life lessons along the way.

Whether you were a Chandler or a Rachel, there was someone you could identify with. There were storylines that had you cracking up and ones that had you tearing up – but either way, you were glued to the screen.

Let’s see what lesson each character of FRIENDS has to offer us (careful, spoilers ahead)

1. Don’t be afraid to take a risk

As well as proving true love does exist, if Rachel getting off the plane to Paris to be with Ross taught us anything, it’s that taking a risk – for love, a job, yourself – is worth doing. It will teach you to live in the moment and not look back. And who wants to be predictable all the time, anyway?

2. Everyone has different opinions about things – and that’s fine

Consider this piece of wisdom from Joey Tribbiani: “It’s a moo point. It’s like a cow’s opinion. It just doesn’t matter. It’s moo.” While many of us like to consider ourselves fairly confident people, there’s no doubt that we all value other people’s opinions way more than we should. Like when Ross just couldn’t accept that Phoebe didn’t believe in evolution.

Everyone is going to have an opinion about everything, it would be positively dull if everyone had the same opinion about everything. However, you should know when to just agree to disagree – some things just aren’t worth getting all worked up about. Sometimes, it’s a moo point.

3. Dance, run and do whatever you love like no one is watching

Remember the episode when Phoebe runs like crazy in the park? How free-spirited is she?

Here is an important lesson to learn from her – do what pleases you and do not care a damn about society. The world anyways will talk, you just do what you feel is right. Phoebe did everything as a free spirit – had her brother’s triplets, sang unusual songs at the Café (remember “Smelly Cat”?) and held her head high always.

4. Keep it Real!

Ross is very misunderstood. Coming off as sad and judgmental, Ross is the one that keeps it real. When Phoebe thought her mother was reincarnated into a cat, he was the one who had to step up and say something. A lover of science, Ross is very learned and it comes through in his sarcasm. And oh! He definitely taught us the difference between your and you’re and UNAGI.

5. Always Stay Motivated

Monica, the mother hen of the group, doesn’t shy away from leading the group and taking responsibility for tasks. Someone has to do it and leadership skills take you a long way.

She has her quirks, and she’ll be the first to admit it. She likes her furniture arranged a certain way. She has 11 different categories for towels. You can’t eat in bed. She embraces all of these things about herself, and you should embrace your quirks too.

Perfectionist Monica taught us to take up a job that we love instead of doing something which we detest.

Pursuing your dream can get tough. You might have to do something you don’t like. Monica knew from very early on that she wanted to be a chef and open her own restaurant someday. In the bargain, she wore costumes and skates and danced and waitressed at diners. But ultimately, she was the head chef at her own restaurant.

6. There’s Always a Bright Side 

We all know that Chandler is emotionally unavailable and therefore turns to humor and quick wit to escape emotion. (I think a lot of us are with you there, Bing.) Chandler is easy to love because he is laid back and self-deprecates in such a way that you have to respect him.

Chandler reminds us that life isn’t all bad, and that sometimes you just gotta’ dance your feelings out; regardless of how silly you look. He taught us to never lose hope and find a person who will put a turkey on their head to say sorry and put a ring on it.

When times get tough, make a fort, watch TV in it and invite your friends over. Life is hard, but if you can find times to still be silly and act like a kid, 100% do it.

They are the spirit animals of big and small citizens alike, and their personality resembles many of us in this world. Whether serious or stupid, we can always count on them to yield the perfect piece of advice for most situations.

What are the life lessons you learned from FRIENDS? Do let us know in the comments section below!

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Choices, chances & changes – Three Cs that can change your life

Ever felt down in the dumps, absolutely sure that you wanted to transform your life but no idea where to start from?

Ever wondered what might have been?

Ever thought about where and who you’d be if only you’d done something differently, gone somewhere else, chosen something or someone else?

Probably yes, if you’re like most of us.

But, have you ever imagined where you might go and what you might still become, with the choices and chances you yet have left?

Choices, chances, and changesThe three ‘C’s of Life  

There are a lot of people who say that life comes down to the balancing act of these three things.

According to the saying “you must make a choice to take a chance, or your life will never change.”

But how do these 3 C’s affect our lives? How can we adapt them to create a life that we don’t regret? Let’s take a look 🙂

Choices

“Life is the sum of all your choices.” ~Albert Camus

Some say that every moment is a choice, while others say it’s every day. Many, of course, just wait until the obvious choices come to them, which is a choice in itself.

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Every day we are faced with decisions – some large, some small.

The decision may be overwhelming at the time, but, the truth is, an outcome is going to happen regardless. Make the best of it. Choose what’s right and most importantly, go with your gut.

Life can be hard sometimes and the path is not always clear. But if we are making choices, either way, we sure would rather be picking the path that leads us closer to our vision than letting fear make the choice by default.

Chances

“Life is inherently risky. There is only one big risk you should avoid at all costs, and that is the risk of doing nothing.” ~Denis Waitley

By making a choice, it is by default taking a chance, which leads us to focus even more on the obstacles that surround us. We sure wouldn’t want to be that person who’d, later on, end up saying ‘I wish I had done this or been there’?

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The point is if you want to accomplish something you have to take a chance.

For example: Like that guy/girl? You have to take a chance and ask them out 😉

Want to quit your job and chase your passion? You have to take the plunge, quit your job, and make it happen.

Changes

“It is better to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward only to stumble backward.” ~Proverb

Everything changes, even as the saying goes: “The only constant is change”, so why do we resist it so much, why can’t we embrace it?

It’s funny how pretty much all I know comes down to just one thing.  Change.

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The most uncomfortable part of the equation, yet, the most rewarding. By embracing change, we open the door to opportunity. With opportunity comes success.

Maybe you’re stuck in a rut, or a situation where it feels as if you’re going nowhere. Change. Welcome new beginnings 🙂

C+C+C = Life

However many chances remain in our lives, we better make the most of them, right?

We better be prepared for them. We better be ready—not only to make the choice but to see it through.

Life is the sum of our choices. If our chances are short-lived, as they are, then there are but few choices left that may change us forever.

What will you do with those choices? Are you ready for them?

You may also be interested in checking our article “5 Myths About Being an Introvert“.

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Studying bachelor’s in biotechnology, Aayushi is a really passionate person, who loves to read and travel. She believes people, places, and stories have the power to change anyone and help them understand the purpose of life.

5 Myths About Being An Introvert

A few months ago I attended the most beautiful conference in 20 years of my life.

A conference full of the most passionate and energetic youth from all over the country, and some foreigners too. We danced, we shouted, we played and we worked. We were sleepless for 6 days straight, yet we were full of energy.

However, there is one thing that I heard there that really bothered me, and I wanted to talk about it ever since. “I was an introvert before I joined the organization, and now I am an extrovert. I love how I am able to communicate with people now.”

The responses came flooding in with appreciations. I sat myself down, thinking that it might put somebody’s energy and confidence down. But inside, I kept asking myself: “Why? What’s wrong with being an introvert?”.

Bill Gates, Hillary Clinton, Barack Obama, and Marissa Mayer are all remarkable leaders – and introverts. Being an introvert is not a bad thing.

Although we tend to think of leaders as loud, extroverted and confident, the opposite might be true.

What is introversion?

An introvert is someone who prefers calm, minimally stimulating environments. These people like spending time alone and they get drained by enough socializing.

The opposite of an Introvert is an Extrovert.

An extrovert is a person concerned more with the socializing and physical environment than with inner thoughts and feelings. These people love making new friends and parties.

Yet, there is so much more to introversion than this.

So, let’s break some misconceptions about introversion 🙂

1. Being an introvert is not the same as being shy

People say that “shyness” is the trait that helps us recognize whether a person is an introvert.

No, there’s a difference.

Shyness means getting nervous and self-conscious in social situations. Even extroverts can have this trait. It’s not like extroverts just run around chatting with strangers all the time.

Introversion is when socializing wears you out. You might not be nervous or shy at all. In fact, many introverts like meaningful socializing, but it just tires them out. That’s why they avoid extra socializing.

You can be an introvert and shy, or you can be an extrovert and shy. One thing is not directly connected to the other 😉

If we compare socializing to running, then extroverts are marathon runners, and introverts are sprinters. Does it mean they don’t like running? No! It just makes them really tired after a while, and they need to conserve their energy.

2. Introverts don’t dislike people

They hate spending all their time around people, they don’t hate people. They just need a good amount of time to recharge themselves after some socialization.

Everyone is born with an innate temperament — a way that you gain energy and prefer to interact with the world. Introversion and extroversion are temperaments.

Introverts just need alone time to gain their energy and go back to interaction.

3. Introverts are not poor public speakers

Introverts generally spend more time preparing for their presentations and speeches, rather than just flying by the seat of their pants.  

Many introverts are naturally gifted speakers. They have excellent communication because of their amazing listening abilitiesBut anyone can work on communication skills, either being an introvert or an extrovert.

4. Introverts don’t need to “get better” just for being an introvert

Yes, if an introvert is completely out of social energy, they start getting a little crabby or simply zoned out. It doesn’t mean that they’re trying to be rude.

In fact, they’re a lot more friendly if you give them some time to recharge themselves.

Being an introvert is part of who they are, and it can be a source of excellence. We are at our best when we embrace our nature and use it as a source of strength.

5. Introverts can’t become an extrovert

There are plenty of introverts out there who wish they could be more outgoing, but this isn’t the same thing as becoming an extrovert.

First, there are no drawbacks to being an introvert.

Introverts, like everyone, can improve their social skills like communication and become more capable in social situations. But it won’t change the fact that those interactions, after some time, will start to drain them.

Many people falsely believe that introverts can (or want to) “unlearn” their quiet and silent tendencies.

Introversion is an inborn personality type, it cannot be altered. Therefore, an introvert can’t become an extrovert.

In fact, when it comes to leadership, introverts are confident leaders who are particularly effective at managing a lot of extroverts because of their listening abilities 😉

Being an Introvert is a gift. Today the world is in need of people who go deeper, think before they act, and look at things in new ways.

The world wants people who value meaningful relationships over meaningless small talks. And the world is welcoming thoughtful and contemplative people, who bring calm and wisdom to a room.

If you think you are an introvert, here are two easy methods that can help you with better socializing 🙂

  • Stretch the limits of your comfort zone:

It is always said that great things come out from your comfort zone. So, gather guts and talk to people.

Start with introducing yourself to everyone. Most important is, to start with the low key. Talk about things you’ve already experienced. Don’t hesitate to say yes to the outing plans.

It doesn’t happen in one day, but working on it helps you a lot.

My personally experienced method is volunteering. When I volunteered, I met a lot of like-minded people. We all were there to work for the same cause and improve our own selves by stepping out of our comfort zones.

Which made it easy for all of us to communicate with each other.

  • Learn to get involved in a conversation

By being involved I don’t only mean is to listen. your skills should be balanced in both the ways.

Sometimes, mere listening creates an awkward silence. It can be interrupted only by your talking. Thus, it is very important to develop conversation skills.

Being able to talk gives you confidence in various social situations. With practicing, you can definitely overcome your fears. You may also check 4 ways to improve your communication skills 🙂

Let us know how you feel about it. We’d love to know your views and what skills would you like to develop in yourself 🙂

We at AIESEC have many projects around the world which helps you to overcome your fears and gain confidence, apart from contributing towards world issues.

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Anisha Bhawanani is graduated in Marketing and Finance and loves writing. She is a happy go lucky girl with a head full of dreams, very passionate about traveling and exploring different cultures. One day she wants to win a man booker prize.

4 Ways to Improve your Communication Skills

Communication is an important feature of an effective leader.

Steve Jobs always motivated his workers to make progress towards Perfect Hardware Products. Jack Welch coached the senior authority group of GE higher than ever. Jeff Bezos is known for articulating the Amazon ethos unmistakably to employees and the world.

And why am I mentioning it?

Because Motivation, Coaching, and Articulation are all parts of Communication.

All these leaders have extraordinary communication skills.

So if you also want to have these great abilities here are 4 easy ways to Improve your Communication Skills:

1. Be a good listener

One of the most renowned and proven mantra to improve your communication skill is “listening”.

“Listen More Than You Talk” is something that Richard Branson has always been telling business people who want to connect with each other.

To communicate effectively, first tune in to what others need to say. At that point, you can give a mindful answer that shows you have considered those thoughts.  

 2. Over-communicate, but make sure to communicate.

In 1990, a graduate student at Stanford College could demonstrate that the presenters overestimate how much audience actually understands.

In an examination called “the tappers and the listeners,” one set of members were asked to tap the tune from 120 well-known melodies. The opposite team members were requested to think about what tune was being tapped.

Tappers evaluated that 50% of the melodies tapped would be effectively identified. When in reality, just 2,5%t of melodies were accurately identified.

This investigation demonstrates that it is vital to convey clearly, and to over-communicate when sharing something new.

Make sure that your audience actually understood what you just said. A good way of doing that is by asking them to summarize or repeat the information given.

3. Start and end with key points.

Rethink the “tappers and the listeners” specified above. Clear communication is of vital significance.

To ensure that the audience understands the key takeaways from presentations, repeat key points toward the beginning and wrap up of the speech.

This can likewise be achieved by providing participants with a one-pager that incorporates key points they’re supposed to consider all through the introduction.

4. Add examples to make listeners connect.

An ongoing report uncovered that people generally hold more information when given with an example.

To help the audience connect to you, think about infusing a type of novel occasion into an introduction, a daily real-life situation or even a joke.

This may be something amusing, or something that people just catch surprisingly. It gets much easier to process information when you connect it to something you can relate with.

Perhaps communicating clearly is one of the most effective skills you can cultivate as a business leader.

Listen carefully to what others have to say, and over-communicate in various different ways to ensure the content of the conversation sticks with the audience.

You can also find your voice, all you need to do is take the first step, and practice it every day!

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